We did it y’all. We got married!
VENUE: Lacuna Lofts, Pilsen
PHOTOGRAPHER: Made to be Mine
We did it y’all. We got married!
VENUE: Lacuna Lofts, Pilsen
PHOTOGRAPHER: Made to be Mine
I taught myself how to photoshop collages and I’m kind of obsessed.
I have a few resolutions
Read more books
Work out more
Pay off debt
Weddings give you debt because they SUCK your bank accounts dry. I have always been bad with money and has an almost 30 year old woman my savings account is a joke. I downloading Qapital last year. I’ve bailed myself out a few times but swore to stop touching it around 6 months ago. I’ve saved over A THOUSAND dollars with out trying or noticing. The app rounds up the nearest dollar, and you can also set rules like set it and forget it. Or you can reward yourself/ your savings by not shopping. I just need to share the wealth LITERALLY. I wish someone told me about this app sooner, so I’m paying it forward and telling you. save that money honey.
Qapital <<<<<<< $$$$$$$
As most of you know we spent a week in Sayulita after our wedding relaxing on the beach with a drink in hand like you should do after you’re wedding.
Seriously relaxing alone with your new spouse is a MUST.
Sayulita was the perfect place for a honeymoon and we loved everyplace we went in the teeny tiny little town.
DRINKS AND FOOD
Aloha, what a great little tiny spot you order up at the bar and you can take your giant Marg and walk around the the town. The passionfruit Marg was literally heaven. I had so many of them.
Our favorite taco place was called Pedritos, we think.
Its actually extremely confusing because it was only the best taco place during the day. Then at night the other guy took over and it was his taco place which we didn’t love.
We didn’t have the best time finding breakfast places so we went to Marys, La rustica, and Micelanea Sayulita. Also go to chocobanana and get a banana with coconut and granola and their carrot cake is on a different level. Organix was delicious for smoothies and smoothie bowls. man I miss this food there.
By far our favorite restaurant in Sayuilta was La Rustica. It was where we had our first nice dinner there and the food was AMAZING, we left so full we could hardly move. When we couldn’t decided on a place to go, La Rustica always always always won. The cocktails were insane, the smoothies were bomb, the breakfast was on point and the pizzas OMG they had this pizza called princessa and it was UN FUCKING REAL.
If you get sick like I did, the pharmacy will be your bff. They have their version of pedylite which tastes WAY better than our version. DRINK THAT.
For our beach days we paid 200 pesos and hung out in fro of Don Pedros, They had service on th beach where you could order Pina coladas, margs and order a bunch of snacks so you wouldn’t have to move all day. We tried other beach front spots but that was our favorite by far.
We did a surfing lesson from “Get up stand up” I think it was $100 American for the both of us.
Go to the hippie market, we bought so many Xmas gifts there and Rio had to stop me from buying all of the pom poms. because it was becoming an issue.
I can’t believe it has been two weeks since my wedding what a CRAZY CRAZY time.
For the last 14 months the only thing that was on my mind was this wedding, it consumed all my conversations, thoughts and money. I spent so much time DIY-ing, planning, making timelines, crying, writing emails, crying some more. It just feels so crazy that its over. I know everyone says this but IT FLYS BY SO FAST. SO FAST.
I have some words of wisdom to pass on to anyone that is planning a wedding.
Don’t stress too much over the little details. I was so hung up on this railing that was behind us during the ceremony I wanted to make something to hang to cover it. I lost sleep over this fucking thing and at the end of the day it didn’t matter at all. I was the ONLY one that noticed it and cared about it.
Don’t let anyone A N Y O N E tell you how to do your day. If you have dreamed of having a small ceremony on top of a god damn hill with 10 puppies, you do the damn thing because that is your vision. Don’t let your second cousin, or your dads new wife make you feel bad about your vision and pressure you into changing it. DO YOU BOO.
Put one of your bridesmaids on food and water duty. Everyone says this but it’s true AF. Don’t forget to eat. Your nerves are all over the place and you don’t feel like you can stomach anything but power through and shove that food in your mouth. I asked my bridesmaids to basically treat me like a baby and remind me to take a sip of water every hour and I ate a bagel and snacked through out the day.
DO A FIRST LOOK. the nerves you have are UNREAL but the second I saw my future husband standing there waiting for me nothing else in the whole world mattered. I had my partner in crime and I felt at peace with everything. We were also able to do a bunch of portraits after the first look so we didn’t have to miss our entire cocktail hour which gave us the opportunity to say hi to all the people that came to share in our love.
Hire a videographer. Do it. save the money its so damn worth it. I swear you black out. There are chunks of my wedding I don’t remember at all, and I can not wait to see the video of it because I know it was amazing.
This was pretty non-traditional but I invited someone to the wedding who is an Instagram master and her job besides to party her face off was to take cell phone shots and post on Instagram stories. I can not even tell you how amazing it was to lay in bed exhausted at the end of the night with my HUSBAND and go through all of those photos. It was just so damn cool to have it immediately to look at. She also took tons of boomerangs of my dress in motion and ahh I'm just so obsessed with those.
Make sure you love your photographer, like love them so much that you want to invite them to thanksgiving dinner. You want to feel 100% comfortable with them because they will be there for the very private moments on your wedding day. Also make sure you do your research, its pretty impossible to shoot an entire wedding day in 8 hours so you won’t have footage of either you getting ready, which makes really great photos. Or you won’t have photos of the party. Find someone that doesn’t give a timeline or starts at 10 hours because you’ll end up caving at the last minute and adding time which costs a few extra hundred dollars which will feel like thousands days before your wedding.
HIRE A DAY OF COORDINATOR, I was blessed by a human angel goddess named Ashley and her cousin Jackie who saved my wedding day over and over again. She had my back and I love her now like a part of my family. When I was freaking out she would look at me dead in the eye and tell me “It’s all good, I’ve got it” and she did. You need that calming energy on your wedding day. If she saw me looking around the room she would appear next to me with in seconds asking me what I needed. When I went to find her to tell her to start cleaning up, she was already on it and had taken care of it all. She was worth every damn penny and if I won the lotto tomorrow I would venmo her thousands just cause.
This one is kinda weird. You are so overwhelmed by seeing all these friends and family that you don’t always get to see that you forget to hang out with your new spouse. It was important that we reminded ourselves to dance together, and talk to people together because we both so excited to see the people we haven’t seen in forever.
Make a timeline that is intense AF, like every 15 minutes are accounted for. there should never be a second that someone doesn’t know whats going on. Timelines are important.
BREATHE. This seems like a silly one but your on a high the day of of nerves and adrenaline you kinda forget to breathe. I would sneak away to the bathroom and watching breathing videos on youtube to chill the fuck out and it was life changing. Breathe.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Have fun. It happens so fast. Enjoy yourself.
As some of you know I recently started another business with my Fiance (Husband in 18 days). Before we started this I was always his unoffical second shooter and it was just fun for me to go to weddings. Now that I am a Bride myself I have a whole different perspective to wedding photography, and how to make the day more seamless and less stressful.
MOST IMPORTANT THING, I can not stress this enough and so many weddings we’ve shot have not done this which makes it a mess for everyone involved. MAKE A TIMELINE, please make a timeline. Do it in 15 or 30 minute increments. Not one person will have you ask you about timing all day, everyone will know the plan and exactly where to be. The top of your timeline should have the locations of the bride and groom, the phone numbers of people to contact if something comes up so not one person will text you the day of, and the phone numbers of your vendors so if your make up artist is running late you don’t have to dig around in emails to ask her where the hell she is.
2. Do a first look. Nerves are real AF, and seeing your honey when your in this nervous stressful feeling they will calm you down and those nerves will go away. Also its such a great way to get some of those portraits before the ceremony so that you don’t have to miss your whole cocktail hour AND you can use that time to talk to guests so you wont have to do it at the reception cause thats PARTY TIME.
3. Don’t forget to eat. Eat breakfast. Remind your bridesmaids to offer you food every hour, a handful of nuts, a sandwich, a yogurt. Also drink WATER. Weddings are stressful, you’re nervous you forget to eat and drink but you don’t forget to drink champagne to calm the nerves. You do not want to get too drunk.
4. Do an unplugged ceremony. Cell phones RUIN the mood totally. There is nothing worse that having “the shot” and your great Aunt Kathy has her huge hot pink cell phone in the shot. It really ruins that shot and its just rude. You don’t want the first photo of you the world sees to be some shitty cell phone facebook picture. Also make sure everyone turns their phones off. Our officiant is making an announcement. No cell phones and put them on silent. It is SO cringeworthy when someones phone goes off during vows.
5. Make a Pinterest board of photos you want to recreate, or the vibe you like. So the day of you don’t have to ask “can you take a picture of us all jumping in the air?”
6. ASK FOR HELP. if you need it ask for it. People will offer you help and don’t be afraid to take them up on it. You want to help me? Great. Can you make 40 Rice Krispies? can you pick up the bagels the morning of? Can you help me write out these signs? TAKE THE HELP.
7. Don’t sweat the small stuff, seriously. This last wedding we shot the bride spent a lot of time making her place cards and placing them on this tree. The wind was so crazy and the tree wasn’t wanting to cooperate. In a pinch Rio and I decided to tape it to the table to keep it down and made the tablecloth kinda drapey and it didn’t look amazing but SHE DIDN’T EVEN NOTICE. Make sure you have people at your wedding that aren’t going to come to you with this stuff, all that would have done is stressed her out, we didn’t tell her, she didn’t know and it ALL WORKED OUT.
I don’t think I have anymore advice that I can think of, just have as much fun as you can and remember if something goes wrong YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO WILL KNOW IT WAS WRONG. You have spent months and months planning this thing and on the day of you have to know that someone else is going to make sure it goes
k love u bye.
I am living for the non traditional brides. We've come a loooong way from square French manis which are by the way, NOT TIMELESS.
Here are some of my favorite bridal nail looks.
Can't wait to share my very non traditional nail art.
I recently made the switch to natural deodorant, and I AM IN LOOOOOVE. I have tried a few of the whole foods natural deodorants offered and they all suck. Toms is a total joke. My friend told me about Native and its honestly so great. I read a lot about how to detox your armpits from aluminum deodorant, some said the new natural version wouldn't work for a few weeks, or you could do a mask to detox.
I used the Aztec Secret Indian Healing Clay mask with apple cider vinegar the night before I wore Native for a whole day, and it was A REALLY HOT DAY and IT WORKED.
I have been wearing Native for a whole week and I haven't had any BO. The first few days were more sweating than I'm used to because I've been wearing aluminum deodorant for as long as I can remember and the aluminum in antiperspirants blocks your sweat ducts so that was a new thing but it wasn't so bad and after day 3 it reduced to almost nothing. I worked out wearing Native, I walked blocks and blocks in the sun in Native, I reapplied.
I bought Lavender & Rose and Gardenia & Orchid
and I love it so much I recently placed an order for the Spring pack and the Coconut & Vanilla, I want to try them all! AND I got a mini travel/purse size with both orders, Use this link to buy yours and you'll get a mini one too.
I use this stuff once a day. On cheesy toast, on a bowl of cucumbers, on popcorn, on steamed broccoli, on cheese and crackers. It's the BOMB.
I'm drooling just typing this, this cheese is so delicious. I highly recommend it on a grilled cheese with sourdough, or on crackers with dates or fig spread.
I mean, If you're already buying cheese. Buy this one too. this cheese is sooooo good I eat it plain, or on crackers with red grapes. YUM
I am addicted to this stuff. If you've ever been to Trader Joe's you know they do samples and those samples work on me EVERY.SINGLE.TIME! They had this dip out once and I literally buy it every time I go to TJ's. I am eating it right now as I type this with pita bite crackers, but its also really good with the multi colored tortilla chips.
Frozen chocolate covered bananas. Enough said.
I love elderflower so much, St. Germaine and Gin is like my go to drink. This is basically that just without the Gin, but duh add Gin and make it even better.
Trader Joes skin care is seriously underrated, I LOVE these cleansing pads I use them after I wash my face and really get all that dirt and make up off and I've noticed a difference in my skin.
I am a huge fan of the Mario Badescu Rose Water spray, I use it all through out the day for a little pick me up, or after I do my make up to set it, in the summer time when its hot as hell and you feel like you are going to melt. I use both and I can not tell a difference.
What is your favorite Trader Joe's item?
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