As some of you know I recently started another business with my Fiance (Husband in 18 days). Before we started this I was always his unoffical second shooter and it was just fun for me to go to weddings. Now that I am a Bride myself I have a whole different perspective to wedding photography, and how to make the day more seamless and less stressful.
MOST IMPORTANT THING, I can not stress this enough and so many weddings we’ve shot have not done this which makes it a mess for everyone involved. MAKE A TIMELINE, please make a timeline. Do it in 15 or 30 minute increments. Not one person will have you ask you about timing all day, everyone will know the plan and exactly where to be. The top of your timeline should have the locations of the bride and groom, the phone numbers of people to contact if something comes up so not one person will text you the day of, and the phone numbers of your vendors so if your make up artist is running late you don’t have to dig around in emails to ask her where the hell she is.
2. Do a first look. Nerves are real AF, and seeing your honey when your in this nervous stressful feeling they will calm you down and those nerves will go away. Also its such a great way to get some of those portraits before the ceremony so that you don’t have to miss your whole cocktail hour AND you can use that time to talk to guests so you wont have to do it at the reception cause thats PARTY TIME.
3. Don’t forget to eat. Eat breakfast. Remind your bridesmaids to offer you food every hour, a handful of nuts, a sandwich, a yogurt. Also drink WATER. Weddings are stressful, you’re nervous you forget to eat and drink but you don’t forget to drink champagne to calm the nerves. You do not want to get too drunk.
4. Do an unplugged ceremony. Cell phones RUIN the mood totally. There is nothing worse that having “the shot” and your great Aunt Kathy has her huge hot pink cell phone in the shot. It really ruins that shot and its just rude. You don’t want the first photo of you the world sees to be some shitty cell phone facebook picture. Also make sure everyone turns their phones off. Our officiant is making an announcement. No cell phones and put them on silent. It is SO cringeworthy when someones phone goes off during vows.
5. Make a Pinterest board of photos you want to recreate, or the vibe you like. So the day of you don’t have to ask “can you take a picture of us all jumping in the air?”
6. ASK FOR HELP. if you need it ask for it. People will offer you help and don’t be afraid to take them up on it. You want to help me? Great. Can you make 40 Rice Krispies? can you pick up the bagels the morning of? Can you help me write out these signs? TAKE THE HELP.
7. Don’t sweat the small stuff, seriously. This last wedding we shot the bride spent a lot of time making her place cards and placing them on this tree. The wind was so crazy and the tree wasn’t wanting to cooperate. In a pinch Rio and I decided to tape it to the table to keep it down and made the tablecloth kinda drapey and it didn’t look amazing but SHE DIDN’T EVEN NOTICE. Make sure you have people at your wedding that aren’t going to come to you with this stuff, all that would have done is stressed her out, we didn’t tell her, she didn’t know and it ALL WORKED OUT.
I don’t think I have anymore advice that I can think of, just have as much fun as you can and remember if something goes wrong YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO WILL KNOW IT WAS WRONG. You have spent months and months planning this thing and on the day of you have to know that someone else is going to make sure it goes
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